OK. When I do the above actions. nothing appears to happen. However, the gold LOTRO ring appears on the dock.
Mousing over it reveals "wine-preloader".
Sounds like it was running. Did you wait? I find that since the u33.0.5 patch on 2022-05-25, when using open-source WINE to run LOTRO, it takes 15 seconds between the time I invoke the LOTRO Launcher application and the time its window appears. Give it a full minute next time before giving up or doing anything. And if you think it's not working or stuck, restart your Mac before trying again.
Originally Posted by Anaxapart
Right-clicking it reveals a check mark alongside "The Lord of the Rings Online TM"; but clicking on that leads to a grey screen, then back to desktop.
Don't do that.
Originally Posted by Anaxapart
Also: when I first tried to activate the wine application, I came up against the usual Mac error "application from unknown source". So I had to "open" it manually in order to force the computer to accept it.
Normal. It's an unsigned application so MacOS wants you to jump through some security hoops in order to allow it to run. You only have to do that once.
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