But there's only two cultures. Ark and Evernight, so it's reality. It's not like you can pick other servers.
There's more servers than just those two.
My server has died off a lot from what it once was but we still get regular small group action, and with the community being smaller it's a lot friendlier than it used to be. All the regulars on both sides know eachother and have good relations and will cooperate to keep fights relatively even, and everyone works together to stop cheaters because we know SSG won't.
I've played massive raids too, but I prefer the smaller groups. There's a lot more strategy and varied skill use when fights aren't simply 20 DPS all point at the same target and nuke it instantly, then move to the next one.