There are a few different sports in LotRO. Golf, Fencing, Football. If you like to golf, great. Wear whatever clothes you want, hit the ball with a piece of driftwood...it's only you. If you want to play football put on your helmet and pads, know your role, and do what the coach tells you, because there's a bunch of other people whose evening depends on you.

The rewards of successful team play are only obvious to those who enjoy it. If you don't, remember you have nothing to prove to anyone but yourself.

And if LM multi-tasking/retraiting/wipe-proofing has got you down, roll a hunter and pew-pew all the way home