I also recommend going to the "Hall of Fame" and printing out the thread that details out all the different acronyms and gaming terms for new folks. I actually started it many years ago because I was so lost and frustrated. Even after joining a very wonderful kinship, I still had to come to the forums to try to figure out what all the stuff they were talking about in chat... here is the link to that thread:
https://www.lotro.com/forums/showthr...MO-terminology
I'm over on Arkenstone, and have returned after several years. I am playing on an old laptop so I can't really take part in any serious game-play right now, so I just do a lot of crafting and leveling my brand new alts who are in their 20-30s. As of the last 6 weeks, I have YET to have a quest that requires fellowshipping. I never see anyone looking for fellowships in the low levels mainly I'm guessing because the old-timers starting alts already have their kin/friends and the new to MMORPG players don't even know what fellowshipping is or how it works. They just kind of putter around like me.
When the game first started you had to fellowship early on as soon as you came out of Archet practically so you met many folks who were also new or who were doing alts and had a great chance to level with them and meet others. Unfortunately, between the push by solo players and the low server populations they seemed to have phased out any kind of contact with other players which is really lame to me..because I chose an MMO so I could meet other people who liked to play the same games!!
So everyone is like..."join a kin" except...kins are a complicated thing. Especially on a low-populated server. I don't know how populated Crickhollow is, but Arkenstone I'm told is the most populous, yet after the last several weeks I've tried a couple of kins so far but both had people who never showed up to play. That is the challenge, finding people who play when you do and who are playing at your level as well. That is why I miss having to do fellowshipping at the lower-levels. I had a random invite to a fellowship once in the North Downs. I don't think the guy spoke English because he didn't reply or speak to me in Fellowship chat at all, and he didn't have the in-game audio turned on so we just kind of were running solo quests together for an hour or so.
My own kinship that was the best? It was a group of folks who fellowshipped together in the Barrow-Downs and just decided to create a kin with the 3 of them. I happened to randomly fellow with them and they had the patience to deal with a complete noob-chick. As we leveled we learned and as we fellowed with others they would sometimes join us. Those were fun days -but now it's just me who has returned.
One thing you will want to get around to if you haven't already is to make sure you have a gaming headset of some kind and download and set up discord. Sometimes you'll need to use the audio in-game in order to get through a quest. So make sure you figure out how to turn it on and to use it BEFORE you start trying to fellowship on a hard quest (for some reason it isn't working on my laptop and I can't figure out why)
Most kins now have a "Discord" server and require you to participate that way, being able to chat with your fellowship/raid group and your kinsfolk is really the only way to play the game. As the game gets harder after level 50, and more complicated you simply can't do any seriously fun gaming without some way of talking to your group/raid/kin. You can't play and type questions when things are flying lol. I did not really get into the game until I set up the audio.