Re: Why are people so spectacularly bad at playing their classes?
Simple answer would be that they are not! This answer is just as unspecific as the question though.
It seems that this whole debate is based on not how bad a player may be at x,y or z. Rather, the way a person plays is being questions.
It is easy to say a person that is experienced in grouped and / or end game play that seems demanding and wants everything 'just so' is an elitist so and so. It is equally as easy to blame and flame players who are less experienced or have a more casual, unconnected style of play as being 'bad' when something goes wrong in a group - even when the accused player got little or no help from others in the group!
LOTRO is a Massively Multiplayer Online (MMO) game and, as such, attracts many styles of game play from casual or unconnected to a more formal or rigid style, soloing or grouping, hardened experienced gamers to inexperienced new gamers and every style in between. Players in game are also of varying 'types' in the real world, we have older and younger players, male and female, 'native tongue' and 'foreign' players and players of varying physical ability in example.
As for grouping to do content, there is a lot to be said about being in a kinship to do so but it kind of boils down to being in a group with like minded people and having a support network where you (may) get help that is beneficial to the individual and then the group.
Pick Up Grouping ('PUGing') is possibly the worst way to group for content - especially for experienced players. In a PUG, you are essentially picking up random strangers that you know little or nothing about. It is unfair and unrealistic to expect everyone in a PUG to be an 'uber' game player in the exact same way as you perceive 'uber' or, equally, a novice that needs training or a bad player. If your PUG 'wipes' because (in your opinion) a bad player let you down then maybe you should ask yourself what you could have done to support that player and how bad a player you are for not supporting your group. (You and your used in example and not directed at anyone specifically.)
A pug will almost always and almost certainly consist of players of varying experience, skill and game play styles. If anyone cannot handle that simple fact of PUGing then maybe they should not PUG.
The thing is, not everyone wants to be in a kin thus PUGing can be the only way some can get to do certain content. So there is no simple answer to the OP question in the context of the original post.
Many players will excel solo, many will excel grouped, many just want to have fun and this is where the friction starts as one players idea of fun is not necessarily the same as that of others.
I urge all to go enjoy the game while playing and be accepting of other players but not to simply assume that another player must be 'uber' or not because of their level, class or amount of experience we may perceive they have. After all, assumption is said to be the mother of all mess ups*!
*Yeah - sanitised for the forum and for politeness.
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